I don’t really fit into many categories whole-heartedly. There is always something that keeps me from committing. Not being able to let go of something I find painfully important keeps me in a Switzerlandish middle ground most of the time. This has actually served me well for the most part. But as I was scrolling through my Twitter feed (yes, I’m really starting to love this social media stuff, my millennial pals), this lady I find fabulous threw out a question to her readers: do you have a word for each year and what is it for 2018. Huh. As a very easily distracted daydreamer, I was ironically startled when the word focus came right to me. Weird. I would normally ponder and refuse to let go of a plethora of word options. There are so many things I need and want to do in the new year…what do I choose? Ahhh. This year it is so much clearer for me—just focus on what I’m doing while I’m doing it. I’ve written about mindfulness and emotional intelligence and guided people to meditate and appreciate the moment. I need to practice what I preach, right?
I can’t resist writing down new year’s resolutions that I will never completely achieve or be able to stay on track with consistently. I’ve been doing that since I was a kid and look forward to it like a mini bucket list. But, this year, there will be no beating myself up for missing the mark on becoming a highly-organized, wickedly rich, perfectly fit, super mom who deflects stress like Wonder Woman with her impenetrable wrist armor. When I’m playing with my boys, I will focus completely on them and not be concerned with work, shopping lists, or chores of any sort. If it’s time to work out, no impending meetings or deadlines can wreck my moment. I will keep focus the focus of my goals.
Speaking of goals; some of us (yes, “us” means I’m guilty) get too lofty and dreamy with our new year’s resolutions each year. It’s tough not to. Each of us has this image of our potential self or the way we once were and hope to regain it. Where many of us throw in the towel is upon first wavering from the path. “I ate two donuts, might as well finish the box, go to the buffet, drink this bucket of sweet tea, and start again Monday. Or, “Working out is horrifically boring. I’ll just try to eat less donuts and quit paying the gym membership.” It’s no challenge to talk ourselves out of or into things that are the easy route. We can justify it with altruistic excuses like saving money, being home earlier, doing more of what someone else expects us to. But where does that get us? With guilt and a wadded-up resolutions list about mid-February.
How do we defeat this vicious circle? By throwing some business solutions into our personal goals. Let’s nerd out for a minute. Consider how businesses both small and large stay afloat and maintain that magic word – focus. They set realistic and achievable goals—bite sized pieces throughout the year that lift them higher. Here’s an example of applying this to real life:
Don’t expect yourself to achieve super-hero feats in 2018, Friends. Set realistic, achievable, measurable goals that will have a positive impact on your life in some way. Break them into chunks by time, steps, or level of difficulty. When we have something to celebrate, we maintain focus and the motivation to keep going with our reasonable new year’s resolutions. So, baby steps will get me closer to that image of self that may (or may not) be completely attainable. Hey, closer is better—I’ll take it and celebrate it! Happy New Year, Friends.